The Grown & Liberated Love Club™

Top Ten Ways The Patriarchy Programs Men to Fail At Relationships Ep. 14
EPISODE 14 • SEASON 1 00:34:09

And what a self-loving woman, who wants to be in a relationship, can do to bypass all of it. (No "pick me" energy required. 


The patriarchy doesn't only hurt women... it destroys men's ability to have healthy, loving

relationships. In this episode, Candice counts down the Top 10 most destructive things the

patriarchy teaches men, from equating strength with emotional numbness to reducing their

value to a paycheck. 


Then she breaks down who a self-loving woman needs to be in order to

bypass the patriarchy-addled men and experience real love. No spoilers, you're gonna love it.  


Plus, in the "Gurl, What Chu Going Through?" segment, a deep dive into Lion Babe's song "Wonder Woman" and her way of de-centering patriarchal men.


Key Takeaways:


The patriarchy programs men to be bosses instead of partners, performers instead of

lovers, and providers instead of present.


Men's emotional suppression is not a personality trait, it's conditioning, and it directly

destroys relationship intimacy.

 

You don't have to fix what the patriarchy broke, just boycott its

rules.


Links:

Apply for a consultation: candiceharperlovecoach.com/grown-liberated-love


Research Cited:

American Psychological Association (2018). "Guidelines for Psychological Practice

with Boys and Men."

Parent, M.C. & Moradi, B. (2009, 2011). Research on the Conformity to Masculine

Norms Inventory (CMNI-46) identifying the toxic triad of Winning, Power Over Women,

and Heterosexual Self-Presentation.

Cole, B.P. et al. Research on traditional gender roles, emotional intimacy, and sexual

satisfaction. Archives of Sexual Behavior.

Pleck, J. (1981). The Myth of Masculinity. Gender role strain theory.


Music Arrangement: Wes Kilgore

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