The Cult of Patriarchy: 50 Shades of Obey Ep. 29

Subtitle: Deprogramming from the Cult of Patriarchy So You Can Attract a Divine Equal Match™. aka Leadership Skills Don't Automatically Come With A Penis.

Sis, you were handed a whole belief system before you could read, and nobody ever asked if you wanted it. This week let's get unhinged about the programming running your love life in the background: the leader you keep looking for, the control you grabbed because somebody had to, and that little voice asking if you're too much.

Receipts included. A real exit process included. Bring a pen.

Timestamps

0:00 Theme

0:30 Host Intro + Vision

3:00 You Were Raised In A Cult

6:00 Part One: The Pain

13:00 Part Two: The Research

19:00 Part Three: The Deprogramming

26:00 Part Four: The Divine Equal Match

30:30 Hack The Dating Apps ad spot

31:00 Gurl, What Chu Goin' Through

35:30 Outro

Research citations

hooks, bell (2000). All About Love: New Visions. William Morrow. [Theory / cultural criticism. Cited for the argument that patriarchy, which trains men toward power, control, and emotional suppression, is incompatible with the vulnerability and mutuality that love requires; for love defined as an act of will; and for the "love ethic" of care, respect, knowledge, responsibility, commitment, and trust. Not an empirical study. No statistics claimed.]

Hassan, Steven. BITE Model of Authoritarian Control (Behavior, Information, Thought, Emotional control); developed across his work including Combating Cult Mind Control and Releasing the Bonds. Founder, Freedom of Mind Resource Center. [Framework. Cited for the four control categories and for the shift from coercive "deprogramming" to non-coercive "exit counseling."]

Host interpretation, stated on air: applying bell hooks' work and Steven Hassan's BITE Model to modern dating and mate selection is Candice Harper's framing, not a claim made by either author. The BITE Model was built to describe authoritarian cults; its use here as a metaphor for patriarchal conditioning is intentional analogy.

Verification note before recording: the Luenell dating-standard claim is an unverified meme and is presented on air as unconfirmed.

Song featured

"A Woman's Worth" by Alicia Keys (Songs in A Minor, J Records, 2001). Written by Alicia Keys (Alicia Augello-Cook) and Erika Rose. Produced by Alicia Keys.

Links

Apply for The Grown & Liberated Love Club™: candiceharperlovecoach.com/grown-liberated-love

Hack the Dating Apps ($27): candiceharperlovecoach.com/hack-the-dating-apps2

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Theme arrangement and background music: Wes Kilgore

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The Cult of Patriarchy: 50 Shades of Obey Ep. 29

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