Haystack Burning for Black Women Ep. 32

BOOK REVIEW : Burn the Haystack, Dr. Jennie Young

Burn the Haystack was released in April of 2026. A definitive book for decoding while dating. But is it beneficial for Black women as well? Cultural differences and systemic discrimination may suggest “no”. Find out and message me with your own thoughts.

Young, Jennie, PhD. Burn the Haystack: Decode Dating, Torch the Duds, and Make Room for Men Who Matter. William Morrow (HarperCollins), April 2026. ISBN 9780063447578. Creator of the Burned Haystack Dating Method. Professor of writing and rhetoric, University of Wisconsin, Green Bay.

Research

Fairclough, Norman; van Dijk, Teun A.; Wodak, Ruth. Foundational figures in critical discourse analysis. [Academic method / linguistics. Cited for the general premise that language encodes power relations. ]
Aristotle. Rhetoric. Origin of the ethos, pathos, logos framework.
Collins, Patricia Hill (1990). Black Feminist Thought: Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment. Routledge. [Cultural theory / sociology. Cited for controlling images.]
Harris-Perry, Melissa V. (2011). Sister Citizen: Shame, Stereotypes, and Black Women in America. Yale University Press.
Bailey, Moya. Coined the term misogynoir, 2010.
Skinner, B. F. Operant conditioning and variable ratio reinforcement schedules.
Schüll, Natasha Dow (2012). Addiction by Design: Machine Gambling in Las Vegas. Princeton University Press.
Kondo, Marie. The KonMari method and the spark joy criterion. [Popular method. Cited for the somatic nature of the test.]
Host interpretation, stated on air: applying Collins, Harris-Perry, and Bailey to the reception of Black women’s dating profiles is Candice Harper’s framing, not a finding in those authors’ work. No controlled study on differential profile reception is claimed or cited.

Song Featured

“Cranes in the Sky” by Solange. A Seat at the Table, Saint Records / Columbia, 2016. Written by Solange Knowles. Produced by Solange Knowles and Raphael Saadiq. Grammy Award for Best R&B Performance, 2017. [Woman writer credit satisfied. Album liner credits list Solange Knowles as sole writer; some secondary sources add Raphael Saadiq.

Past Episodes Referenced

Episode 27: “Wanting Him Isn’t the Same as Being Ready for Him.” Referenced for the braced-for-disappointment pattern and the moat versus filter distinction.

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