Froze Your Eggs? Great! Here's 7 Secret Ways to Warm Up Your Love Life. Ep. 31

You froze your eggs, or you made the decision with your eyes open. You handled the biology. So why does the clock still get louder every birthday. In this episode I separate the fertility clock from the emotional clock, and I show you why the second one will sabotage your Love Life. I pull the research on why accomplished women are freezing their eggs in record numbers, and it is not the reason your auntie thinks. I tell on myself about the season desperation had me force-fitting the wrong man and what it cost me. And I hand you seven moves that make room for your Divine Equal Match™, including one nobody in this modern dating world is teaching: how to slow down to speed up. Sis, you are not running out of time. You are running out of tolerance. Good. Press play.

EPISODE NOTES

Research Citations:

• Inhorn, Marcia C. (2023). Motherhood on Ice: The Mating Gap and Why Women Freeze Their Eggs. NYU Press. [Empirical ethnography, 150+ American women who pursued egg freezing. Cited for: egg freezing driven by the mating gap, a shortage of eligible, educated, equal partners, rather than career postponement; freezing as a reproductive backstop while waiting for the right partner.]

• Simons, L.G., Sutton, T.E., Landor, A.M., Barr, A.B., Bryant, C.M., & Granberg, E.M. (2021). Gender Differences in the Dating Experiences of African American Young Adults. Youth & Society. [Empirical, N=495 African American young adults, mean age ~22. Research team includes Black women scholars Dr. Chalandra Bryant and Dr. Antoinette Landor. Cited for: women matching men's mate preferences were more likely partnered while men's outcomes were unrelated to matching women's preferences; authors conclude women may compromise mate preferences due to a gendered power disadvantage. Host interpretation stated on air: applying these findings to women 40+ extends beyond the study's sample.]

• Clarke, Averil Y. (2011). Inequalities of Love: College-Educated Black Women and the Barriers to Romance and Family. Duke University Press. [Empirical / sociological. Callback to Episode 27.]

Song Featured:

• "Made for Me" by Muni Long. Single released September 15, 2023; lead single from the album Revenge (Supergiant / MPR / Def Jam). Written by Priscilla Hamilton (Muni Long), Jermaine Dupri, Bryan-Michael Cox, and Jordan Orvosh (JordanXL). Produced by Jermaine Dupri, Bryan-Michael Cox, and JordanXL. Grammy winner.

Past Episodes Referenced:

• Episode 27: the Averil Clarke research callback and the desire-versus-readiness distinction.

Links:

• Apply for The Grown & Liberated Love Club: candiceharperlovecoach.com/grown-liberated-love

• Hack the Dating Apps ($27): candiceharperlovecoach.com/hack-the-dating-apps2

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Theme Arrangement: Wes Kilgore

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Froze Your Eggs? Great! Here's 7 Secret Ways to Warm Up Your Love Life. Ep. 31

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