The Grown & Liberated Love Club™

Sis. Let's talk about the cringy stuff you're doing in your love life that you don't even know you're doing.

Like auto-promoting one date into a whole relationship in your head before he even knows he's in it. Or shapeshifting yourself into something "wifeable" instead of just being a whole woman. Or driving past his apartment at midnight because you can NAME your attachment style, but you can't seem to stop living it.

This week we're going there. Ten behaviors that are quietly ruining your dating life, AND ten behaviors that will have you in love and happy with your divine equal match. Ten to release. Ten to embrace. One India Arie song at the end to anchor the whole thing.

If you've been wondering why your love life keeps looking the same no matter how much you "do the work," this is the episode for you. Sometimes the work isn't another book. Sometimes the work is admitting which cringy behavior you're still defending, and choosing different from this moment forward.Song Featured: 

• "I Choose" by India.Arie feat. Bonnie Raitt (Testimony: Vol. 1, Life & Relationship, Motown, 2006). Written by India.Arie Simpson. 

Past Episodes Referenced: 

• Episode 17: "Where the Hell Is My Husband?" - on specificity 

• Episode 18: "Knowing Better, Still Doing It Anyway" - on the insight-implementation gap • Episode 21: "Your Vagina's Voice" - on body wisdom 

Links: 

• Apply for The Grown & Liberated Love Club: 

candiceharperlovecoach.com/grown-liberated-love 

• Hack the Dating Apps http://candiceharperlovecoach.com/hack-th-apps2

• Apple Podcasts: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-grown-liberated-love-club/id1866935967

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